The Union Prompt Library · Values & Meaning
Values questions for couples
Underneath the calendar, the chores, and the group chats, every marriage runs on a handful of quiet convictions — the promises you’d never compromise, the feeling you want people to carry out of your home, the kind of ancestors you hope to be.
Couples rarely say these things out loud unprompted; there’s never an obvious Tuesday for it. These questions make the Tuesday. They’re not about agreeing on everything — they’re about knowing, precisely, what the two of you are actually building.
- Looking back at our wedding day, what is one vow or promise that feels particularly important to you right now?
- As we close this first month, what is the one promise to our future selves that we want to document today?
- What does 'intimacy' mean to you right now, beyond physical closeness?
- What is a core value of mine that you've seen me live out particularly well this month?
- How do you want our relationship to impact the world around us (friends, family, community)?
- What is a 'sacred' part of our relationship—something that feels untouchable by the outside world?
- How can we better protect one of our 'team values' in the coming weeks?
- What is a principle you hope we never compromise on, no matter how much our life changes?
- When have you felt our relationship was truly living up to what you most believe in?
- What does a meaningful life look like to you right now—and where do I fit inside it?
- Is there a value your family gave you that you want us to carry forward—or one you'd rather leave behind?
- What is something you consider truly worth doing, even if no one ever noticed we did it?
- What is a small, everyday act that—to you—quietly holds our relationship together?
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